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Review: No Drama Discipline by Daniel Segal and Tina Payne Bryson

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I started parenthood around the moment that the pandemic started.  The lockdown and my maleness meant that I didn't really get a lot of in-person advice about parenting.  I relied on books to be a father and equal parent to my child.  One of my favorite books is The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Daniel Segal (@DrDanSiegel) and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson (@tinabryson).  They wrote another book that I just finished: No Drama Discipline. Book Cover Text: SCRIBE, NO-DRAMA DISCIPLINE THE WHOLE-BRAIN WAY TO CALM THE CHAOS AND NURTURE YOUR CHILD'S DEVELOPING MIND FROM THE BESTSELLING AUTHORS OF THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD, DANIEL J. SIEGEL, MD, NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF MINDSIGHT, AND, TINA PAYNE BRYSON, PhD *** Book Cover Image: A blue circle containing the silhouette of a kneeling female presenting person holding a standing male presenting child's hands *** My kiddo is starting to gather her own will.  I have been encountering all of the tantrums, demands, and hitting tha

Walk towards hope?

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Picture: A woman stands on the roof of a tall building overlooking gardens, green houses wind turbines.  The image is in the solarpunk style. *** After soaking in collapse literature and podcasts for a while, I find that the depression inherent in predictions is too strong.  When that happens, I read Walkaway by Cory Doctorow.  I followed that up with Down and Out in the Magic Kingdom. It is interesting to see how Jacob Redwater is echoed in Keep-A-Moving Dan.  Before I read Walkaway, I saw the Bitchin Society as a utopia. Back to collapse: What part of Walkaway exists now?  In my study of The Knowledge by Lewis Dartnell, I found baby incubators built from car parts[1] and Open Source Ecology[2]. Where could we look for free microbial beer, solar and wind to hydrogen cells, microbial food printers, and UN construction organization? I'm looking for hope.  Does anyone know? [1] https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/news-blog/babys-hot-wheels-an-incubator-made-2008-12-

Review: This is How it Always Is by Laurie Frankel

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Photo: Left Part, Cover Text: This is How it Always Us by Laurie Frankel.  Camera pointed up a tree at a blue/pink sky.  A child in rainbow leggings is climbing the tree.  Right Part: Head shot of Laurie Frankel: white, middle aged woman in a v cut black top with red/brown hair turned perpendicular to camera but looking at it over her shoulder.  Forest trail out of focus in background. *** #ThisisHowitAlwaysIs by @Laurie_Frankel is a beautifully written novel covering #parenting, #trans-children, #family, and #myth.  The beats of the story were tight and the tension kept me hanging on every moment.  As a parent, I have wondered about how I would parent a trans-kid and Frankel's novel feels like a parental speculative fiction that lets the reader experience some of the inevitable obstacles that a family of a trans-child must overcome.  I don't want to give a moment of it away. This is How it Always Is by Frankel is beautiful and worth your time.

Pregnant? Blood Pressure Taken Incorrectly?

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Photo Description: A doctor taking a patient's blood pressure.  Camera is looking down from above table. **** My pregnant partner had issues with white coat hypertension that caused us a lot of stress because the OBGYN wanted to induce early based on bad blood pressure data.  If you are in this situation, I wanted you to have some research that I conducted. Fyi, you can find things that would be behind an OVID paywall by finding publically accessable documents that reference what you want. My partner's OB is a member of ACOG.  After a lot of searching, I found the practice bulletin that describes best practices for taking blood pressure.  In my experience, no med tech follows these because no doctor requires it. Of course, Pre-eclampsia is extremely dangerous.  However, at least one doctor is not ensuring that they make judgements on good blood pressure data. I hope you can use this to advocate for yourself. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7720658/figur

Review: The High Sierra by Kim Stanley Robinson

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Book Cover Description: A craigy peak topped by orange sunset clouds in the North American High Sierra Mountains is mirrored by a mountain lake. Text reads: The High Sierra - A Love Story - Kim Stanley Robinson - New York Times bestselling author of The Ministry for the Future *** Since reading Aurora by Kim Stanley Robinson (KSR), I have become obsessed with his books.  I have read the Mars Trilogy several times and found new and interesting details each time.  I am also a Midwest-based outdoors-person and lover of mountains. KSR's Sierra book is beautiful.  His discussions on Muir and the conservation of the range are interspersed with gear philosophy, life advice for outdoors people, and the stories that are swapped when outdoors-people start talking. I was just thrilled to learn that my obsession with KSR's work and mountains are intertwined in a way that seems obvious in hindsight.  So many physical descriptions in his books are inspired by the Sierra. The high

Review: Ancillary Justice by Ann Leckie

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I started Ancillary Justice by Ann Leckie because it was on a list of books that were said to be similar to Star Wars: Andor.  The resemblance is interesting. In a space fairing collection of civilizations, the Radch rules as an empire over others.  Power is gained by the "illbred" by colonizing land not already controlled by the Radch. At some point, the technology to create ancillaries develops.  An ancillary is a human that is under AI control.  In this future, slave drivers directly control slaves without freewill creating conflict: an absolutely unrelatable concept that does not strike fear into my heart. The protagonist, Breq, was once an AI that controlled a ship and many ancillaries.  Something caused the destruction of her ship and the deaths of all of her ancillaries but the one they inhabit now.  Breq is on a quest to kill the person who destroyed her ship, the Lord of the Radch, which doesn't sound at all like Lord of the Reich. It is a